The Art of Loosing

Everyone loves how it feels to win, we all love feeling like we are the best at what we do. It boosts our self-esteem, ego and makes us feel on top of the world. It is easy to be happy, kind, and optimistic when we win. Someone who wins well, is proud of their accomplishment but is also humble enough to not treat others around them differently. Just like there is an art to winning well, there is also an art to losing well.

This past weekend, I had the honor of stepping on the stage for the first time as a pro bikini competitor. This was a dream that I had for over ten years. After countless competitions of not winning, I finally was able to take first place and win my pro card. I made sure I hit every work out, ate all my meals, and spent countless hours practicing my posing routine. Despite my best efforts, I did not win anything at this show.

I won’t lie, not having my number called was incredibly disappointing. I felt discouraged and down about myself. I found myself questioning if I even had what it takes to be a pro in this area. I made sure that I showed good sportsmanship and I cheered on my fellow women as they collected their trophies. Instead of being jealous, negative, and critical, I took a look around. I was surrounded by beautiful women, with gorgeous bodies that had put in hours of training just like me. If it wasn’t for them, I wouldn’t have been able to compete or have this opportunity.

I know losing can be painful, discouraging and can take a toll on our self-worth… that is if you let it. Instead of staying in a discouraged place, I want to encourage you like I did myself. You do in fact belong, you aren’t going to win every competition, just like you won’t lose all of them. What matters most is your heart and character.

If I am honest with myself, I would say every time I lose, I find that I am humbled and I realize there is a new level of depth in me. Often, our character needs time to catch up before we can reach a new level. The worst thing in the world would be getting a good thing too soon.

Next time you find yourself in a losing situation, remember to focus on all the things you learned. Allow it to stretch your character, keep a good attitude, and cheer on the others around you. When things are going bad, don’t get bummed out, get up, dust off, recalibrate, re-engage and go after what you want.

You might not be able to win everything, but you won’t lose everything either.